You Attract Who You Are
We all have a certain vague idea of what kind of partner we want. But in our dating lives, we realize that we’re just not meeting the high-quality people we truly desire. Why are we not able to fix that? We’re clueless and most of us end up settling with someone that we’re not really attracted to.
A good reason may be that we’re not clear about what kind of person we’re attracted to and are not looking at the right places. If you’re a person who enjoys spirituality and soberness and is looking for a partner in the bar and club scene, then there is a misalignment in itself. First, you have to understand what kind of person you’re really attracted to and where you will find him. You have to understand what kind of qualities that person will be drawn to and start working on becoming that person. Also, you have to be clear about what kind of relationships you want. Do you want a relationship at all and if yes, a monogamous or a non-monogamous one? There is no right or wrong choice. Be honest with yourself and know what you truly desire. Let go of all the fears, inhibitions and judgments.
You may be attracting low-quality people in your life at this point, and are totally clueless about how to proceed. If this is really bothering you and causing you pain, all you have to do right now is let go of the need to have a partner, and just focus on yourself for some time. We need to align ourselves and clean up our thoughts first before we seek companionship.
Figure out the qualities that you are attracted to and become the person who has those qualities. Like attracts like. For instance, if you want to have a person in your life who is physically, mentally and spiritually fit, with a beautiful body and mind, you have to become that person.
One of the reasons that I deepened my yoga practice and got more disciplined about it is because my ideal partner is a yogini, someone who is spiritual and is physically and mentally fit. She is beautiful inside and out and shares the same core values as me. My goal is to become that person and get slightly better every day so that I can attract her in my life. Your ideal partner is the reflection of the true you, your inner being. You have to strive to become the person that you want to attract.
You may argue about the fact that opposites attract each other all the time, but in essence, the thing that brings them together is their common values and the need to grow or expand more. An introvert wants to become more like her extroverted partner; an extrovert wants to be in more in sync with the calmness inside him like her partner. Their curiosity for novelty and expansion is the same, hence they feel attracted to each other.
Personal development plays a big role in dating and relationships. In order for us to get a high-quality partner in our life, we have to invest in ourselves first. When you focus on growth, you will attract a person in your life who is seeking growth in his life too. In my opinion, that’s the best trait to look for in an ideal partner.
Personal growth is instrumental if you want to attract a high-quality person with similar goals and values. You have to become the best version of yourself. As you go ahead, the Law of Attraction will work in your favor and you will start meeting high-quality people that you have always wished for.
If you keep doing the same actions and continue having the same limiting beliefs day in and day out, you will end up getting the same results. If you don’t develop yourself into the person you have always wanted to be, you will not have a similar vibrational frequency as your ideal partner. On occasions when you interact and talk with someone you’re deeply drawn to, you will always feel a sense of unworthiness. For a short time, that person may be attracted to you, but you won’t be able to keep that person around for a long time.
A great way to start attracting your ideal partner is to make a list of all the qualities you want and don’t want in a partner. This will help you clarify what you’re looking for. Then write down all the qualities, behaviors or traits of the person you have to become in order to attract this person in your life. Review the list of positive aspects and the qualities you desire exclusively every day so that you start incepting this person in your head. This will be your compass towards finding someone who you will align the best with you. As you meet and date more people, you will gain more clarity about what traits you desire and what behaviors you despise.
This is the most effortless and effective way to attract your ideal partner, because you’re just being, and not doing anything. In this way, you’re not relying on mindless actions and tricks that lack meaning and purpose. If you feel really stuck, try this approach.
It doesn’t matter if you meet someone who is not perfect at this point and has some minor flaws that are still acceptable to you. Embrace his flawesomeness! As long as you have a person who wants to grow in the same direction as you, that is what matters. We have to accept the flaws of that person but only focus on the positive aspects of that person. If we try to seek a ‘perfect’ partner, we will never be happy and never be able to manifest long-lasting relationships in our lives.
The most important trait that we need to cultivate is patience. You may end up meeting that person in an instant, but there’s also a good chance that it may take some time for that person to show up. As I have mentioned before, If this is an aspect of your life that really bothers and hurts you, for now, all you have to do is take a break. Focus on yourself and what kind of partner you really want to attract in your life.
Once you have clarity, things will become much easier and effortless. You will attract people as you do the things that you enjoy doing. You will embrace the path of least resistance in this way. Sooner or later, you will attract the right person you’ve been looking for and will be able to keep him around you.